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It’s ironic that the three most worshiped sports (Baseball, Basketball and Football)by Americans have three of the most disturbing delusional and dangerous behaviors spreading hate and violence as quickly as catching the common cold; but begrudgingly reluctant to go away.
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Baseball’s ‘Field of Dreams’ has been shattered forever with all the doping scandals of this so-called ‘Gentlemen’s sport’.which now wants its players to become more like“Superman”  while so-called fans do not notice or care if their hero of the season overdoses.  All these enablers (fans) want is for their superman to hit the ball over the fence and play another day without injury.  
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America’s obsessive preoccupation with winning and perfectionism has taken it’s toll on every one’s mind.  We are now a nation of dope fiends, enablers and drug pushers controlled by our fantasy world of perfectionism.
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Now the unassuming innocent game of Basketball has become polluted with toxic haters and racist owners who are nothing more than greedy controllers seeking to shore up and increase their money trying desperately to equate it with their negative self-esteem through code words and sophisticated practices and laws to suit their sense of rightful privilege and entitlement.  
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The manly game of Football has become a magnet of boorish boys pretending to be men while raping young boys in the name of mentoring them.  Another group of bully boys likes to criticize and beat up on their so-called loved ones with an array of assaults they would never consider inflicting on a competing football team player and/or their own team mates even if provoked with a flurry of taunts or menacing shoves and kicks. No, they reserve their assaults on people who are smaller and weigh less than half their weight.  . . 
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Now that some of these situations have been recorded on audio or video….we now run around and scream the “The Sky is Falling!” when these gutter thoughts and despicable behaviors and habits have been “Replaying” for decades and centuries. We have several new ‘Smart’ phones and now watches but our human relationship skills are still in the stone age...and that’s an insult to cavemen. 
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Please Note:  This is not an indictment of every sports player or every individual fan; however, it certainly is an indictment of how far we have fallen.  I know that racism is practiced between groups that physically look like each other…just a different sect or villager right across the road throughout all of history and that men can be victims of domestic battery assault by women..
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Periodically, events de jour are so crazy and unreal that I have to write about them(NCM Blog below) even though my preference is to write about institutions, companies that are improving society and individuals, families and communities who have overcome terrible obstacles and.or are Following their Bliss.
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But, it does show how far we have fallen from the noble goal of sportsmanship and what it means have respect for those that are different than ourselves. And, just plain good manners are sinking like quick sand.-
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Dr. Brene’ Brown’s ground breaking research which addresses other societal  ills like racism, battery assaults, etc, as symptoms cloaked in perfectionism.
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I have read and taken Brene’ Brown’s Art Journal course titled “The Gifts of Imperfection” which I highly recommend it for anyone struggling to understand how wanting to be perfect is actually a crippling affliction.  
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Just last week this course  has now become available to everyone as an on demand E-Course which I purchased because it’s that comprehensive and life changing.
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I have only perused this book; however, it appears sound.
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Dr. Kenneth Skelton, Sr., earned a doctorate of ministry degree from the Houston Graduate School of Theology. He is the pastor of Spirit of Life Church and lives with his wife, Cookie, in Houston, Texas.
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Slavery may have ended in 1865, but the pains, prejudices, and traditions of four hundred years of slavery have continued through the generations and are ingrained in our modern psyches. Present-day America is still a breeding ground for hate crimes and racism because passed-down hatred is just as potent as firsthand hatred. We are not at fault-we were never slaves or masters, ourselves-but this is our problem all the same.
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And we must make it our mission to break the cycle of abuse, cope with our legacy of hatred and mistrust, and heal ourselves with the kind of understanding and dialogue that Why They Just Can’t Get Over It delivers.Skelton’s groundbreaking, hard-hitting book addresses the reasons that our nation has become so divided and dysfunctional and covers why we have a disproportionate level of social problems in the black community, including out-of-wedlock births, divorce, violence, drugs, and the number of black men in prison. But most importantly, the sensible and spiritual principles and practices set forth in this illuminating and motivating guide empower Americans to move beyond the dark and wretched era of slavery and commit their hearts, minds, and lives to overcoming racism forever.
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I have only perused this book; however, it appears sound.
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Lundy Bancroft has spent the last fifteen years of his career specializing in domestic abuse and the behavior of abusive men and is considered one of the world’s experts on the subject. He is the author of The Batterer as Parent and several journal articles on abuse that have appeared in The New England Journal of Medicine and The Journal of Contemporary Psychology. The former co-director at Emerge, the nation’s first program for abusive men, Bancroft now practices in Massachusetts while training various state and judicial agencies in dealing with domestic abuse situations.
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“He doesn’t mean to hurt me-he just loses control.”
“He can be sweet and gentle.”
“He’s scared me a few times, but he never hurts the children-he’s a great father.”
“He’s had a really hard life…”Women in abusive relationships tell themselves these things every day. Now they can see inside the minds of angry and controlling men-and change their own lives. In this groundbreaking book, a counselor shows how to improve, survive, or leave an abusive relationship, with:€ The early warning signs
€ Nine abusive personality types
€ How to tell if an abuser can change, is changing, or ever will
€ The role of drugs and alcohol
€ What can be fixed, and what can’t
€ How to leave a relationship safely
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NCM Blog
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August 1, 2013
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…be of sound mind!
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Camille
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Camille Mitchell